'Was' is the operative word here because having finally met a man with whom I clicked and who I thought was different, something went wrong.
We spent the weekend away, we both had a fantastic time together, really, I'm not an idiot, this was good for both of us, we communicated on the same level and we never stopped talking or laughing. It really was different, right up to the last minute.
I got home late last night and he called as promised.... but instead of the usual lovely conversations we have had previously for hours on end....he called a halt to it. Bang, out of nowhere!
It seems we have a serious case of cold feet for want of a better phrase, well it's more complicated than that but isn't it always.
To be fair he was completely honest and I understand his reason, in fact more than that I have great empathy with it but none of that changes how miserable and crap I feel right now, or the fact that I really am beginning not to trust my own judgement any longer and think trust is a thing of the past per se. In fact understanding somehow makes it harder because despite that I can't do anything about it.
Maybe single is the better option, maybe I'm done with men..... I'm losing the faith.
Monday, 8 February 2010
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Oh Hun I'm sorry :o( Just as things seemed to be looking up. He was totally honest with you though wasn't he? That's got to be some good in all the bad? Maybe you should give men just a little longer before you give up totally? That from a woman who has given up on em ...
I'm so sorry, Gem, but the fact that he was so honest may mean that perhaps it's worth another try if he comes round?
I found that the thing is not to look - they'll find YOU.
Zxxx
o no... don;t give up!!!
things of the heart are usually complicated and painful but worth every minute...
Imagine how boring life would be without all the ups and downs and all the drama?!?!?!?
:)
xxxxxx
definitely don't give up. The first hurdle was to prove to yourself that you could still find somebody you liked and that you were therefore still in the game. Mission accomplished. Ok, so this hasn't turned out to be the correct relationship longterm, but so be it - it would be rare indeed to find the right person first time. Move on, move up, and don't give up. he's out there, somewhere.
Agree with all of the above - it's a numbers game, just got to keep at it...(says I who is not even trying...I will though, very soon....)
Him being honest? Hmm. So, if he has trouble and doubts about relationships why enter into the prelims and not be honest right at the start. Time for old saying - more I see of men, more I love dogs
I agree with John, Jane, although obviously I don't know all the facts. But don't give up - there are decent, truthworthy men out there and you will meet one soon, probably when you least expect it. :)
I'm sorry you has a sad.
Tittybollockyshittywanky-doo!
Sorry hun... but I know the swear words above will make you smile.
I think the perfect man is out there.. your equal... he's just biding his time til the time is right... xxxxxx
oh and Daisy is so cute... I'm sorry you has a sad too. xx
I second what biggusdoggus said. and Daisy too - I sorry you has a sad.
oh no! well, he was honest and you understand that but I'm with John - why not share his concerns earlier? look on the bright side - you know you can connect again, just needs to be the right person!
oh no! well, he was honest and you understand that but I'm with John - why not share his concerns earlier? look on the bright side - you know you can connect again, just needs to be the right person!
Sorry to hear about that, but I'm forced to wonder why he went away with you in the first place if he had these feelings? It smacks of playing with people's emotions, and that is never a good thing. Here's hoping for better for you.
I agree with Mr. Nighttime.
Thanks guys, as ever stoic and there when the shit in gemmaks-ville hits the fan. I feel as miserable as sin right now but I've had some practice at this stuff of late so it's not all bad and no doubt I'll bounce back in a day or three. xxx
You know my perspective on this, and you know where I am if you need me x
Oh no! I'm sorry it didn't work out. I was in a similar situation last year and it's just frustrating when you meet someone you click with and then they end it out of the blue.
I keep telling myself that at some point there will be someone to stick around, but until then I'm a pro at the single life and that doesn't suck too much! x
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