To err is human

One of the things I most dislike and something I find quite upsetting is individuals who presume to make judgement on me, or anyone else, without being in full possession of the facts of any given situation!

I suspect we are all guilty of it to a lesser degree occasionally but hopefully most of us then take a step back and consider that there may well be factors surrounding incidents, behaviours or situations that we are not aware of. Most, if not all, things happen for a reason, if we only take the time to look a little deeper.

Having taken the time, if we remain confused most of us I hope, would still retain the sensitivity not to make a judgement or at least not to openly criticise, our lack of understanding is after all not someone else's fault, rather, if any one's, our own.

We all have opinions of course, we don't and nor should we necessarily agree with everything we encounter or the decisions of others but we will none of us ever fathom every situation we encounter. That however that still doesn't give us the right to make judgement. What it should do is remind us to accept that every one of us is different, that we are individuals and that each one of us lives within a slightly different set of emotional and practical specifics, some of our own making and some that we find ourselves having to deal with despite wishing we didn't have to.

Unfortunately that isn't always the case, as most of us know, there will always be people who feel that they are somehow entitled to level criticism at others, that they know what's right, who believe that 'their way' is the only way and for that reason alone we should all choose to take the same path in life as they have chosen.

Perhaps by the same token, rather than get hurt or angry when someone judges us, we should be attempting to understand them and why they react to us in that manner. Maybe their life isn't as sweet as they would have us believe, perhaps they have their own problems they have difficulty coming to terms with and judging others takes the focus away from their own internal wranglings, perhaps standing in judgement helps them to feel more secure about themselves, or perhaps they are just too insular and tied up with their own issues to consider those of others.

It is probably apparent from this post that I am smarting from a recent incident in my own life, one which I found particularly hurtful and one which having looked within myself for some time now, I still find hurtful. I may be oversensitive and that is not a third parties responsibility but what is the responsibility of each of us is a some degree of sensitivity towards one another. We are none of us perfect, we all blunder through life's ups and downs dealing with whatever we face, good or bad, to the best of our ability. We all live our lives within the limitations that we are presented with and to err is human, if indeed we do err, as we are bound too sometimes, in the opinion of anothers. It is not however excuse or reason to pass judgement on issues that most times are none of our business anyway!