The thing about sex

So then, the whole sex thing, why does it have to be such a minefield or in some cases almost a battlefield? The last year has taught me something I already knew but hadn't had to deal with for quite some time, that unless one is prepared to have casual sex with just about anyone the average date is going to become something of a physical obstacle course and trying to get to know someone whilst always on the back foot, isn't very conducive to anything, sexually or otherwise!

Guys nowadays aren't generally big on commitment of any kind, our dating game has become like I read it always has been for years in the U.S., one has a series of dates with various people, rather than 'in my day' (hell I sound old) we tended to see one guy at a time. I am happy to do either but I just can't get my head around seeing a series of guys maybe just once or twice and having sex with them all! It's just not going to happen but it appears to be a very difficult path to tread. Guys just don't appear to accept it and to be fair nor do many women and I don't think it's specific to the men I have met because the more I discuss it and the more I read the more it seems it is the norm.

Don't get me wrong, I enjoy sex as much as the next person and I have always believed it is a natural, fun and lovely thing that we shouldn't have too many hang-ups about hopefully. I don't have strong moral issues on the subject and I certainly don't have religious issues but I do have self respect and emotion and I am just not going to date three guys in a week and shag (I choose the word purposely)them all.

I understand that the harsh reality is that the world turns on money and sex, I hope I am far from a prude and I hope I am realistic. I don't expect a guy to marry me or even date me for months on end before he tries to get messy, but longer than one evening would be kind of nice and a little respectful!

Maybe in part it is our own fault, in the fight for equality we have given the impression that we are 'up for it' or the ladette culture has perhaps lost women some respect from the male of the species. I appreciate guys now don't really know where they are sometimes with women, and I understand the Venus and Mars principle but really, there is nothing to prove. I'm not interested in a mans sexual prowess first, I'm interested in the man...if he's cool then the prowess is a natural progression and all the better for it.

Call me old fashioned, call me naive if you will though I believe I am far from either.... but if I wanted to fornicate with every Tom, Dick (pun intended) or Harry that came my way I wouldn't be unemployed and penniless now would I!