I was reading somewhere recently about a guy who's partner/wife was giving him grief for that age old pastime of discreet 'talent spotting'. Whatever you care to call it you know the one, you're driving/walking/sitting in a bar/wherever and you catch your 'Mr' surreptitiously admiring a stunning blonde with legs to die for out of the corner of his eye. He adjusts his position very slightly to get a better view or doesn't quite look you in the eye as you try to hold a conversation, instead his gaze is targeted just over your shoulder at the 20 something with 'Jordan breasts' and his conversational skills fall apart despite his best attempts to appear engrossed in what you are saying. The movements have been perfected throughout evolution so as to be barely perceptible, or at least that's the theory, in fact we rarely miss it!!
And why, I wonder do some women react like a 'screaming banshee' or at the very least aim a vicious elbow into the ribs of the perpetrator. I know in all seriousness there are individuals with self esteem, self image or security issues and I don't wish to detract from the importance of those feelings, but in the main this is just normal behavior. I for one would be far more concerned if my partner showed no interest in a pretty woman.
I am not talking here of the fool we all unfortunately know so well, 'white van man,' who leers out of his vehicle shouting 'nice arse darlin' at anything with a pulse and possibly couldn't get laid if he were the last man on earth. He shows a complete lack of education and respect and deserves to be humiliated where possible.
But come on, lets be honest here girls and give the guys a break...... we all do it, do we not? Show me a woman under 80 who can honestly say, hand on heart, she has never looked! This is not a male only foible, it's natural, we are not the shy, retiring, anorgasmic creatures our grandmothers had to be, or at least pretend to be. I certainly don't pass an Adonis look-alike without noticing and nor would I want to,.... ok so maybe we are slightly more discreet about it and perhaps we are slightly more selective but we still do it!!
You don't have to be part of the (unpleasant) 'ladette culture' to appreciate a nice body or a sexy smile and because you adore Van Gogh it doesn't follow that you can't appreciate Klimt!
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Nicely written and well put, Gemma. Nice to see someone from the other side of the fence arguing the toss. Of course we fellas have known all along that you too indulge in a little 'browsing at the library' but since evolution has gifted you a 180degree field of view, you can indulge without moving your head. As every police officer in the land knows, it's one thing knowing somebody's guilty, but it's another thing entirely being able to prove it. I'm fortunate in being blessed with a very understanding wife who has spared my ribs over the years, and is secure enough in our relationship that she doesn't sulk all weekend if I trip over my words when playfully denying that I "saw that blonde with the eye-catching decolletage over there". Browse away girls - we don't mind, honest!
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Thank you.
We are, as women, indeed lucky to be blessed with 180 degree peripheral vision!
Here's to browsing without bruised ribs. ;o)
Each to their own as they say.
I would agree it is rude if it's overt but providing it's discreet I have no problem with it.
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